Comments on: Learn how to trust your friend http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/ A practical guide for serving others . . . Wed, 14 Mar 2012 06:49:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: CHELSEA http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2755 CHELSEA Sat, 05 Jun 2010 06:39:29 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-2755 I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BECUSE HE WAS LIEING TO ME AND MY FRIEND TOLD ME ABOUT THIS AND AFTER FIGERING OUT THE TRUTH IT WAS GOOD TO TRUST MY GOOD FRIEND REBECCA.WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALOT ABOUT TRUSTING EACH ORTHER BUT WE WORK IT OUT AND WE ARE TRUSTING FRIENDS I AM SO GLAD THAT SHE WAS THERE FOR ME WE WORKED IT OUT AND IT TURNS OUT THAT MY EX IS A LIEING CHEATING MOFO AND I HATE HIS GUTS HE IS GAY RETARDED STUPID AND GAY AND A DOFUS AND ALOT OF WORDS THAT I CANT SAY BUT WE CAN HONESTLY SAY WE ARE TRUE FRIENDS AND WE TRUST EACH OTHER AND MY FRIEND WILL KILL HIM IF HE TRIES TO HURT HER HE IS GONNA WISH HE NEVER EVEN NEW HER I HATE HIS GUTS AND HIS NAME IS DAN WILSON AND HIS GUTS ARE SLIMY AND YUCKEY AND HE BETTER NOT CALL OR TXT ME AGAIN OR ME AND MY FRIEND WILL KILL HIM :) THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME GET MY FEELINGS OUT I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BECUSE HE WAS LIEING TO ME AND MY FRIEND TOLD ME ABOUT THIS AND AFTER FIGERING OUT THE TRUTH IT WAS GOOD TO TRUST MY GOOD FRIEND REBECCA.WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALOT ABOUT TRUSTING EACH ORTHER BUT WE WORK IT OUT AND WE ARE TRUSTING FRIENDS I AM SO GLAD THAT SHE WAS THERE FOR ME WE WORKED IT OUT AND IT TURNS OUT THAT MY EX IS A LIEING CHEATING MOFO AND I HATE HIS GUTS HE IS GAY RETARDED STUPID AND GAY AND A DOFUS AND ALOT OF WORDS THAT I CANT SAY BUT WE CAN HONESTLY SAY WE ARE TRUE FRIENDS AND WE TRUST EACH OTHER AND MY FRIEND WILL KILL HIM IF HE TRIES TO HURT HER HE IS GONNA WISH HE NEVER EVEN NEW HER I HATE HIS GUTS AND HIS NAME IS DAN WILSON AND HIS GUTS ARE SLIMY AND YUCKEY AND HE BETTER NOT CALL OR TXT ME AGAIN OR ME AND MY FRIEND WILL KILL HIM :) THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME GET MY FEELINGS OUT

]]> By: bondChristian http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2379 bondChristian Mon, 10 May 2010 21:36:42 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-2379 I see then. I think most of it will just take patience. It takes a long time to build trust, but the more you talk with this person about it, particularly with why <em>you</em> have trouble trusting people, the more your friend will let down her guard. It's a bit of a trade-off really. She's not going to let down her guard with you until you let down your guard with her. Someone - probably you - has to go first. In practical terms, that means you have to be willing to reveal things about yourself that will make you feel uncomfortable when you talk with her. You have to be willing to share your insecurities with her and with people in general. Otherwise, she's not going to trust your motives, and she's not going to help you trust her again - she's going to stay defensive. -Marshall Jones Jr. .-= bondChristian's latest: <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Bondchristian/~3/RoYTB3t8mAk/" rel="nofollow">Contest + free stuff = My happy birthday to you!</a> =-. I see then. I think most of it will just take patience. It takes a long time to build trust, but the more you talk with this person about it, particularly with why you have trouble trusting people, the more your friend will let down her guard.

It’s a bit of a trade-off really. She’s not going to let down her guard with you until you let down your guard with her. Someone – probably you – has to go first.

In practical terms, that means you have to be willing to reveal things about yourself that will make you feel uncomfortable when you talk with her. You have to be willing to share your insecurities with her and with people in general. Otherwise, she’s not going to trust your motives, and she’s not going to help you trust her again – she’s going to stay defensive.

-Marshall Jones Jr.
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]]> By: riaghta http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2353 riaghta Fri, 07 May 2010 18:16:57 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-2353 Thanks but I haven't really told her I don't trust her I just generalise I.e I don't really trust anyone. Thinks she kind of realises but its causing me to have thoughts that aren't nice and I kind of think she's fake now. As you said I really have to be with God as the one time I did kind of tell her she doesn't tell me anything she was defensive and said I'm throwing her confession in her face. Thanks but I haven’t really told her I don’t trust her I just generalise I.e I don’t really trust anyone. Thinks she kind of realises but its causing me to have thoughts that aren’t nice and I kind of think she’s fake now. As you said I really have to be with God as the one time I did kind of tell her she doesn’t tell me anything she was defensive and said I’m throwing her confession in her face.

]]> By: bondChristian http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2350 bondChristian Fri, 07 May 2010 15:20:43 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-2350 Yes, it is very tricky, especially since you didn't see it coming - it makes you wonder when you can trust her. As you said, staying in prayer and, specifically, praying <em>with</em> you friend is wonderful. God loves to work through that closeness. I think it's important that you keep in perspective the reason you trust anyone. Most of the time, we want to trust people just so we'll get something out of it, so we won't get ripped off. But I think as Christians, our role is to trust them for <em>their</em> sake, trust them so the overall relationship will stay strong and continue to grow stronger. It's certainly not easy - it's a matter of focusing on trusting God and leaving the circumstances in His hands to work through your friend even when your friend might not deserve the trust. "As iron sharpens iron, so one man's countenance sharpens the countenance of the other." Just working through this together will go a long way. -Marshall Jones Jr. .-= bondChristian's latest: <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Bondchristian/~3/RoYTB3t8mAk/" rel="nofollow">Contest + free stuff = My happy birthday to you!</a> =-. Yes, it is very tricky, especially since you didn’t see it coming – it makes you wonder when you can trust her.

As you said, staying in prayer and, specifically, praying with you friend is wonderful. God loves to work through that closeness.

I think it’s important that you keep in perspective the reason you trust anyone. Most of the time, we want to trust people just so we’ll get something out of it, so we won’t get ripped off. But I think as Christians, our role is to trust them for their sake, trust them so the overall relationship will stay strong and continue to grow stronger.

It’s certainly not easy – it’s a matter of focusing on trusting God and leaving the circumstances in His hands to work through your friend even when your friend might not deserve the trust.

“As iron sharpens iron, so one man’s countenance sharpens the countenance of the other.” Just working through this together will go a long way.

-Marshall Jones Jr.
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]]> By: riaghta http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2327 riaghta Fri, 07 May 2010 08:01:07 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-2327 I have been friends with someone for years almost 20 and she seemed near perfect.to me. I've always been the one with all drama issues and I've always been really open with her. She's quiet unlike me and never talked about any problems and I mean never. I started thinking she never had them and with our lives being so different I thought this possible. But last year she told me for years she'd competed with me that's why she hadn't told me any of her issues. Suddenly loads of things made sense when I had spiritual battles, marital issues etc she could even Bare resonance with she kept silent, also advice she had given was swayed by her competitiveness. Now I find myself talking to her then wishing I hadn't wondering what she's thinking etc its different I never had a bad thought really about her before and she was next in line after Jesus to be honest but now I still feel she's the same although she tells me more she's careful and doesn't want to be viewed in bad light and I feel when she's open its just to have balance so she doesn't seem like she hasn't changed. What do I really do I know I have to pray about this and we work together so its harder as we should have trust I have been friends with someone for years almost 20 and she seemed near perfect.to me. I’ve always been the one with all drama issues and I’ve always been really open with her. She’s quiet unlike me and never talked about any problems and I mean never. I started thinking she never had them and with our lives being so different I thought this possible. But last year she told me for years she’d competed with me that’s why she hadn’t told me any of her issues. Suddenly loads of things made sense when I had spiritual battles, marital issues etc she could even
Bare resonance with she kept silent, also advice she had given was swayed by her competitiveness. Now I find myself talking to her then wishing I hadn’t wondering what she’s thinking etc its different I never had a bad thought really about her before and she was next in line after Jesus to be honest but now I still feel she’s the same although she tells me more she’s careful and doesn’t want to be viewed in bad light and I feel when she’s open its just to have balance so she doesn’t seem like she hasn’t changed. What do I really do I know I have to pray about this and we work together so its harder as we should have trust

]]> By: bondChristian http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1782 bondChristian Sun, 18 Apr 2010 03:05:51 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-1782 Thanks, Mandy. Are you going by Mandy more now? :) -Marshall Jones Jr. Thanks, Mandy. Are you going by Mandy more now? :)

-Marshall Jones Jr.

]]> By: Mandy http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1781 Mandy Sun, 18 Apr 2010 03:01:29 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-1781 This is good. This is good.

]]> By: bondChristian http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1011 bondChristian Tue, 23 Feb 2010 09:53:12 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-1011 Thanks so much, Chase. You probably already know this, but that's one of the best compliments a blogger can receive. It's a pleasure to have you here. About trusting, yeah, I think that's totally it... we don't trust others because we forget <em>why</em> we're supposed to trust them. We suddenly (or perhaps not so suddenly) get all selfish when it comes to trusting other people instead of remembering that it's all about serving them. You and I know this stuff - we just forget it. -Marshall Jones Jr. Thanks so much, Chase. You probably already know this, but that’s one of the best compliments a blogger can receive. It’s a pleasure to have you here.

About trusting, yeah, I think that’s totally it… we don’t trust others because we forget why we’re supposed to trust them. We suddenly (or perhaps not so suddenly) get all selfish when it comes to trusting other people instead of remembering that it’s all about serving them.

You and I know this stuff – we just forget it.

-Marshall Jones Jr.

]]> By: bondChristian http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1010 bondChristian Tue, 23 Feb 2010 09:49:44 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-1010 Thanks, Sarah - if that's really the case (and I hope it is), then it certainly wasn't me who came up with it. :>) -Marshall Jones Jr. Thanks, Sarah – if that’s really the case (and I hope it is), then it certainly wasn’t me who came up with it. :>)

-Marshall Jones Jr.

]]> By: Chase http://bondchristian.com/learn-how-to-trust-your-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1009 Chase Tue, 23 Feb 2010 07:51:26 +0000 http://bondchristian.com/?p=981#comment-1009 Hey Marshall, First off, I just stumbled onto your blog from the most recent comment you left on The Art of NonConformity. I noticed your blog name, and had to investigate if it was about what I thought it might be (it was). Safe to say, I loved it instantly, and will definitely be back. (You're now in my twitter stream, and reader). Specifically regarding this post: I love that you pointed to the trust we place is not in others but in God. When that trust is correctly in place, it doesn't matter if our friends fail us, because we know A) God is in control & B) It's but only a chance to display the same love/forgiveness/mercy Jesus portrayed in His life, and God gives to us. Amen, brother. Keep writing. -Chase The Drift Hey Marshall,

First off, I just stumbled onto your blog from the most recent comment you left on The Art of NonConformity. I noticed your blog name, and had to investigate if it was about what I thought it might be (it was).

Safe to say, I loved it instantly, and will definitely be back. (You’re now in my twitter stream, and reader).

Specifically regarding this post: I love that you pointed to the trust we place is not in others but in God.

When that trust is correctly in place, it doesn’t matter if our friends fail us, because we know A) God is in control & B) It’s but only a chance to display the same love/forgiveness/mercy Jesus portrayed in His life, and God gives to us.

Amen, brother. Keep writing.
-Chase
The Drift

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