Smooth broadcast: How (and why) to promote pointless talking

Facebook. My chat box opens with, “Hey!”

What does that mean? It means it’s a girl. Guys sometimes start with “hey,” but it doesn’t stay there. If it did, it would feel awkward. With girls, though, you get used to it.

Girls want response. They send that “hey,” and they’re automatically waiting for a reply. As a guy, though, I’m on the other end waiting for the message to continue with some sort of point.

It’s a guy thing. We like to have a point to conversations. We come to them thinking, “Where is this going?” We’re constantly wondering, “Is this the point? Is this why I’m having this conversation?” We’re aggravated when we can’t find the point.

Girls don’t have this problem. For them (you?), every conversation is an opportunity to just chat. And that can be it.

So from the estrogen side, conversations don’t need points. Conversations can be smooth.

I say all this because I think we, bondChristians, need more pointless conversations.

Now hear more from the testosterone side.

The other day, I received an email from a friend I hadn’t heard from in a long time. As far as I recall, the last I’d interacted with him was through an email I sent him. The email I just received, though, mentioned nothing of my previous email. It started a whole new topic.

I had no problem with him not replying to my email. I didn’t bite my nails waiting for a response. I don’t even know that I wanted a response to my email.

For guys, conversations don’t always need responses. Conversations can be broadcasts.

I say all this because I think we, bondChristians, need more broadcast conversations.

You and I need more smooth broadcasts.

Why “smooth” works

Smooth (pointless) works because it let’s you initiate more frequently and easily. Most guys don’t interact enough because they don’t have a specific reason to. ‘To socialize” doesn’t usually cut it.

Smooth removes that barrier.

Why “broadcast” works

Broadcast (just talking) works because it allows communication without requiring anything from the other person. Most girls don’t interact like this because they want response to continue interacting.

Broadcast removes that barrier.

In short, smooth broadcast works because it puts all the responsibility on you. You’re serving the other person. The other person doesn’t have to do anything for you to show you care. This is what Jesus meant in Luke 6:35 when he told us to serve, “hoping for nothing in return.”

Serving Suggestions:

(1) Start interactions. Don’t wait for a reason or a “point” (besides just showing that you’re thinking about the other person). Girls are cool with this – it’s harder for guys.

(2) Start interactions, but don’t assume you’ll get an active response back. Prepare for one-sidedness. Guys are cool with this – it’s harder for girls.

Anti-disclaimer (which I could just call a “claimer”): I realize I completely stereotyped up the wazoo here. I’m okay with that because I realize it’s stereotyped, not meant to accurately describe every detail. I hope you’re now okay with it too.