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Spotting manipulation – 7 red flags

It’s tough being a slave, you know. People don’t really trust you at first. After all, who actually serves others without some sketchy motive? Once they realize you’re legit, though, they start taking advantage of you. Ah, sweet, they think. These people actually do serve others. I’ve always wanted a slave. And so the process goes… [...]

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Serve by following bad advice

How it works: Someone gives you advice. You follow the advice, even if you know it’s not that great. That’s it. But let’s unpack it. At first, this sounds like a ridiculous idea. I wouldn’t have thought of it on my own. Instead, it came to me as a result of not taking someone’s advice because I [...]

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When does “you serving them” become “them taking advantage of you”?

This is a question I’ve been asked – in one form or another – many, many times. This isn’t the answer you’re probably wanting to hear, but it aligns pretty well with the whole slave mindset. Let me know what you think. [Click through to watch if you're in email or RSS.] Takeaway: 1. Serving [...]

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Why you can’t just “be yourself”

Show of hands – how many of you have heard someone say, “Just be yourself”? They say it with the best intentions, usually trying to settle some nerves. It can feel like good advice too because it implies that you and I shouldn’t act like anything we’re not, we shouldn’t be hypocrites. I’ve written before [...]

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Courage to serve

Serving by nature is social. Social by nature is unpredictable. Unpredictable by nature is scary. That’s why we need courage to serve. For example… The first time I helped lead worship, I was scared to get on stage to tune my guitar. The first time I played drums on stage, I was scared to make [...]

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